Robert Frost once said, “Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired”, but when all desires are lost, do you stay or do you go? How do men know when it’s time to walk away from a relationship? Do they really want to walk away? Does it really affect them if they walk?

“Once her wants becomes more that her needs, I will know it’s the time to go out of her life,” says Simba Bleasdell. ”People, things and situation changes with time and sometimes good things come to an end; it’s like going from hot to cold. With time and patience, men start visualizing their significant other differently, here is where reality kicks in, and men see their partner for who they really are. The layers keep shredding, unveiling their true self, and sometimes this is when a man decides if he should stay or go,” he added.

“It takes some time before someone you are in a relationship with, lets their guard down and shows their true colors. You know that it is time to break up; when you have recognized that the person has certain character traits, that you have no intentions of living with long-term; such as being manipulative.

“Other signs can be when you both are constantly arguing, when you are getting pressured to do something you don’t want to do, or when your privacy is not respected,” Malcolm Jack, 32, explains.
“When I met my ex, I was attracted to her because she was the first woman I felt comfortable enough around, to be myself and tell anything,” said Jerryson Duke of Delaford, Tobago.

“I knew I loved her when I started wanting her around 24/7, whereas I used to love having my own space and doing my own thing. What really made me sure that I was in love with her is when I realized that I was totally happy and contented with one woman,” Duke commented.

“I did not have the urge to go looking for anyone or anything else. However, as time went on in the relationship, her true colours began to show, and she turned out to be the opposite of the person I thought she was” he added. He believed he fell for her because she was smart, loving, caring, supportive, and had a great sense of humor. Some of the best days, he said were the ones he spent with her.

“When we fell out, I would get a terrible feeling, but once we settled whatever the problem was, and our relationship was back to normal, I also got back to my normal self. However, that sick gut feeling began to stick around, even when we were on good terms. She started thinking only about herself and what she wanted, and would do almost anything to get it.”

”She hardly put any effort into the relationship while I was giving it my all. She got sneaky and conniving and started deceiving me. The last straw was when I realized that thinking about her was a major turn off because I could not stand the person she turned into. I realized that from since our friendship, I was just a convenience, and all she really wanted from me, were the things I did for her and my money. So once the trust, respect, like and attraction were gone, I stopped wasting my time, and left.

Save yourself the hassle, he said. Just make a clean break and say goodbye. Do you know when to leave?